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laura_seabrook) wrote2006-08-01 11:45 am
laura_seabrook) wrote2006-08-01 11:45 am
Jenny says No
Originally yesterday I was going to visit Jenny after seeing the dietician.
However, just before I left home I got a phonecall from Jenny saying that she'd be "out for the day". I asked her if she was visiting Ron (her husband in the nursing home) and she said "sort of" to which I said well then I can pop in (it's two blocks away from the hospital) and if she wasn't there, go to the library. Then she said that she just didn't want me to come over, that it "wasn't working out" and that our tastes and interests were too different.
Well. I had been intending to take a DVD or two with me and watch them with her. Jenn's house-bound with MS so if someone else doesn't drive her places, she's always home. I didn't ask just what wasn't working out. All I've ever offered her is friendship, though I know in the past she's wanted more. Made a pass at me on one occassion, and afterwards I scaled down my visits a lot.
The last time I was over there was last Tuesday night, when I took a copy of "I Robot" to watch (an OK flick, but I really wonder what Asimov would have made of it). Hadn't been there for almost a fortnight before that.
Am I upset? Not sure.
She did this once before - asked me not to come, not to phone her and said that she was changing her phone number and so on. So I didn't go, and didn't phone. In her situation, I figured that complying with her request was respectful. Then she phoned me a few weeks later and said how silly she felt, and that I could drop in. However, with the car the way it is, I haven't been that much of frequent visitor, and most times I have visited she's asked me to buy a packet of smokes for her ($10 a packet). Last week I did, because I had money (and she still owes me for that) but I was feeling a bit used.
So I'm not that much upset I guess, not like the time I mentioned in my Friends Self Therapy posting. I'll miss her, but life is too short to worry about it.
However, just before I left home I got a phonecall from Jenny saying that she'd be "out for the day". I asked her if she was visiting Ron (her husband in the nursing home) and she said "sort of" to which I said well then I can pop in (it's two blocks away from the hospital) and if she wasn't there, go to the library. Then she said that she just didn't want me to come over, that it "wasn't working out" and that our tastes and interests were too different.
Well. I had been intending to take a DVD or two with me and watch them with her. Jenn's house-bound with MS so if someone else doesn't drive her places, she's always home. I didn't ask just what wasn't working out. All I've ever offered her is friendship, though I know in the past she's wanted more. Made a pass at me on one occassion, and afterwards I scaled down my visits a lot.
The last time I was over there was last Tuesday night, when I took a copy of "I Robot" to watch (an OK flick, but I really wonder what Asimov would have made of it). Hadn't been there for almost a fortnight before that.
Am I upset? Not sure.
She did this once before - asked me not to come, not to phone her and said that she was changing her phone number and so on. So I didn't go, and didn't phone. In her situation, I figured that complying with her request was respectful. Then she phoned me a few weeks later and said how silly she felt, and that I could drop in. However, with the car the way it is, I haven't been that much of frequent visitor, and most times I have visited she's asked me to buy a packet of smokes for her ($10 a packet). Last week I did, because I had money (and she still owes me for that) but I was feeling a bit used.
So I'm not that much upset I guess, not like the time I mentioned in my Friends Self Therapy posting. I'll miss her, but life is too short to worry about it.
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